Are you a premature score-keeper? What I mean is are you in the habit of determining that something's not working before it actually comes to fruition? Because when we pull out our scorecards too early, we actually cut short the process and cut off the flow of energy and abundance that's streaming into our lives.
I was keeping score while I was house-hunting a few weeks back. I'd find a house that I liked, contact the landlord and apply, and if it didn't work out, I'd think "Oh no, we're going to be without a home!" Was this true? No. In fact, I had a home: my little apartment in Alachua. In fact, Matt had a home: our half-packed house in Cranston. We were not without homes. Heck, we had TWO homes if we were truly keeping score!
But I was caught up in prematurely evaluating the success of my venture. I was deciding this was not working before the process was complete. We often do this to ourselves. We decide too soon -- before things can come together for us -- that things aren't working out or we're failing or life is against us. When none of that is true -- EVER! We're just taking score too soon to have an accurate assessment. Our success is on it's way but we've decided it's not going to happen. The truth is the Universe is for us and things are working in our favor. And we'll experience this as we practice faith and patience.
Why do you pull out your scorecard too soon? One reason I do is because I'm feeling uncomfortable in the unsettledness of my situation. So I start the early evaluating in an attempt to bring about closure. The feeling of failure, though difficult, is familiar and I'm sometimes more comfortable there than in transition. Other times it's because I've been taught I have a limited time to reach a goal, so I pull the plug on the task before someone else does. It gives me a small (false) sense of maintaining control.
Whatever the reason, our scoring of early results has its basis in limited, scarcity thinking. It's a common thought system that says we can't have what we need or want. And it's these beliefs that pull us out of the game too soon to actually reap the benefits of our efforts.
So I offer this suggestion: wait to pull out your scorecard and, when you do, only keep score of your successes. Because that's all there is anyway. As a friend of mine likes to say: "Everything works out in the end. If it hasn't worked out, it's not the end."